on Choosing a Marriage Partner

Before you say “I do”, test your emotions to be sure it is not infatuation.

Give the relationship a break and see how it goes.

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Embrace Imperfection – It’s the Secret to a Lasting Marriage by Deb Graham

In this piece, Deb Graham illustrates that  learning to accept each other’s faults and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences is one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting marriage relationship. This story will inspire you. Read it.

secrets to a happy marriage

When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

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the Dangerous thing about pornograghy

Addiction is a strong thing to fight, but then, weighing the implications of certain acts have a way to get us to make a choice.

effects of ponography

Talabi (not real name) was a sexual addict. He had been an addict for 35 years. At age 15, he had been exposed to pornography, courtesy of his older cousin, who would sneak in with pornographic films at night. At 17, Talabi started to experiment with near- nude images of prostitutes which his cousin had introduced him to. Talabi got married at 25, to a morally sound and spiritually inclined lady in his church, thinking that would help him out of his problems.

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7 Reasons to Remain Single

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“Always be prepared to start”,  Joe Montana advices. 

  • If you find it difficult to forgive, maybe you just remain single because you’ll need to forgive a lot in marriage
  • If  you are getting married because of the things you desire or hope to gain from the other person, please have a rethink, so that you dont get disappointed.
  • If you know you can’t be faithful, why defile the institution of marriage?
  • If you can’t endure irritations, then don’t go in yet
  • “All my friends are getting married”; Don’t get married out of desperation. 
  •  If you know you find it difficulty to be submissive (ladies) , please take care of this before going into marriage. You’ll need to be submissive for the sake of order and peace.
  • If you can’t stand being corrected, hmmn, big problem!
  • If your domestic scorecard  is zero (ladies), hmmn, no matter how many servants you have, fix this before going into marriage

Here is the shortlink to this article is : http://wp.me/p2wuZZ-11H

And do enjoy this video clip by Joel Osteen: Marriage & Lasting Relationships

Interpretations and Misinterpretations

At times, Certain things look differently depending on which side you approach them. The following story gives a vivid illustration of this fact.

There was a certain worker who had the privilege of working in an organization that paid allowance to employee children.

After some time, this practice got expensive and management decided to hold a review meeting. In the course of the argument that ensued in the board room, this man got up and said, “Children are a gift from God therefore and there is nothing wrong in my having as many as come”  This position got the goats of this other lady who countered and said, “Rain is also a gift from God, but when we get too much, we wear raincoats”.

Hmmn!  Such an interesting argument. What do you think? 

Watch these funny kids Argue:

This other post may interest you: https://timelessbits.wordpress.com/2012/08/06/inspiring-ways-to-protect-your-treasures/

Tips on Lasting Friendships: Signs of a breaking relationship

Introspect (Photo credit: 7 Nation Army)

Watch out for these signs, friendship usually does not break in a day, It is such a subtle process.


  • When friendship is at the brinks, communication or contact is minimal.
  • In the course of time, sentiments build up. The thought begins to sound like “Let me let him, let her be”
  • Give it a little more time and some form of pride sets in. Each will think “why should I be the one to reach out first”
  • Then gradually memory of each other becomes weak and the emotional bridge breaks
  • Two friends make faces and shun each other

“But what really happened?”  Probably some flimsy sorts.

Enjoy this Friendship Song

“I Look To You” – Whitney Houston

Hope is not lost when to Heaven, we look

Listen to Whitney on “I Look To You”

One Moment in Time
One Moment in Time (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

As I lay me down

Heaven hear me now
I’m lost without a cause
After giving it my all…
I look to you
I look to you
After all my strength is gone
In you I can be strong…

And every road that I’ve taken
Led to my regret
And I don’t know if I’m gonna make it
Nothing to do but lift my head

This other song and video will interest you: https://timelessbits.wordpress.com/2012/08/21/inspiring-song-you-raise-me-up-josh-groban/

The Two Sides of the Number Line: understanding a nagging woman

Why actually would a woman call her husband “useless man” ? Let’s answer this question with a simple illustration.

If a man currently has 5 oranges but owes 14 oranges, how many oranges does he have in effect?  The answer is  -9. That is, he’s still in deficit of 9 oranges if he pays back the 5 he currently has.

That simply means, as long as what he owes outweighs what he pays back, in effect, he is still in deficit. This is a general truth. This is the lesson of the Number Line.

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Quotes About Finding Faults With Others


Mother Teresa of Calcutta (26.8.1919-5.9.1997)...
Mother Teresa of Calcutta (26.8.1919-5.9.1997); at a pro-life meeting in 1986 in Bonn, Germany (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“When nobody around you seems to measure up, it’s time to check your yardstick” – Bill Lemley

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them” – Mother Teresa of Calcutta

“How much easier it is to be critical than to be correct” – Benjamin Disraeli

“Many can find a fault,  few can do better” – unknown

“People who treat other people as less than human must not be surprised when the bread they have cast on the waters comes back floating back to them, Poisoned” – James A. Baldwin

Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Matthew 7: 1-3

This other post will interest you: https://timelessbits.wordpress.com/2012/07/21/never-judge-based-on-prejudice/


Nigerians and Fraud: couple jailed in the UK

English: Department for Work and Pensions, Exe...

Increasingly over the years, men have found ways to corrupt things that are otherwise good. Synergy is a positive word but when it is  abused, it can backfire.

A couple Thomas assisted by his partner, Abiola, managed to pocket about £87,000 after submitting almost 2,500 handwritten false claim applications for tax credits and benefits.

According to the story as reported by the DailyMail, Thomas, with Abiola’s help, used stolen personal details to complete these claim forms. When the claims were successful, the pair withdrew cash from acquaintances’ bank accounts or from bogus post office accounts that Thomas, who masterminded the scam, had set up. The report has it that they had claimed £3 million from the Department of Work and Pensions and received £44,000.

How was the fraud uncovered?

The fraud was discovered when benefits staff noticed the same address was being used for multiple claims.
And what does that remind us? The ungoodly man is ensnared by his own mistakes.

What did the couple use the money for?
Twas discovered that the pair spent the money on designer clothing and electrical items including a 50-inch plasma television.

What was the court’s judgement?
Thomas, an illegal immigrant, was jailed for seven years while Abiola, also a Nigerian national with leave to remain in the UK, received two-and-a-half years.
Judge Kennedy also indicated that both Thomas and Abiola should be deported at the end of their prison terms.

The pair, who carried out the scam between January 3, 2007 and October 7, 2011, tried to claim £827,000 from HMRC, securing £43,000.

Meaning they had succeeded for a long time in this “business”.  Anyway, I’m simply reminded of that saying that goes this way: “Every day is for the thief, but one day is for the owner of the house”  

Partner in things that are of good report!

Source: http://www.channelstv.com/home/2012/10/01/nigerian-couple-jailed-in-the-uk-for-trying-to-claim-3-8m-benefits-using-1400-identities/

This other article may interest you: https://timelessbits.wordpress.com/2012/07/25/farouk-lawan-femi-otedola-bribery-scandal/

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